During my 10th grade “big” exam, i.e. GCE O/L, my dad told me to jump to the river from the bridge if I fail the exam. That’s pretty much summarize the grip of ‘survival system’, meaning, if you cant’ make it, might as well die.
Very reason to exist is to survive, economically, socially, the family systems, money systems and all that. All interactions have underlying trade agreements, “what can I get out of this”, how can I manipulate and trick another to get what I want etc, be it money, favors, even attention, love, security, employment, all linked to survival systems.
The survival of money and mind’s energy. Getting boss’s attention may not be directly linked to money, but to be in his/her good books means assurance of employment, that ‘feeling’ of guaranteed employment, its quiet challenging to be in conflict with your boss, then the economic ground is always shaking. Here survival means creating that feeling of security with those who have power over you, to decide if you will have a job or not.
The survival system guarantees fear, and with constant fears in the background we’re always playing safe, playing games. Even in relationships/marriages, there is the fear “what if I won’t have any money”, will you still be with me, if I had zero money. Cant’ deny that thought, its there always.
Fears related to money is the driving force behind survival systems. Then comes other things of the mind, like desires, feelings, things that give us a high, can’t survive without them. When India and Pakistan threat each other with nuclear annihilation, its not done for money, but for a feeling of the mind, for a feeling of nationalism and superiority. This feeling or lack of it, activate the survival system, meaning, you got feel that feeling of superiority or nationalism, otherwise a sense of worthlessness, or insecurity kicks in, so easily one billion people can rally behind politicians to start a war so they can feel that feeling of superiority, or that feeling of pride of nationalism, to get that high.
Same with feelings that are totally personal like feelings that come from addiction to drugs, alcohol, porn, sex, depression, laziness etc, because they all give a feeling to the mind, a high, so the mind feels secure, safe, protected, cared for, essentially the mind feels its surviving, hence the essence of the survival system.
The mind says, I have to survive no matter what, be it with a feeling I want or with money, of course money’s end result is to give that feeling of security. Power over others is a feeling, all consuming feeling when you’re a leader of a country, instead of serving the nation, all consuming power consumes you, your mind get so used it and addicted to it, and it wants more, so as a president or PM, it becomes a matter of survival to have more power at your finger tips, you will soon forget why you were elected in the first place.
Not being a slave to these feelings of the mind is the first step to overcome the power of survival system. So not consumed by money fears, not consumed by fame, favors, positions or wanting a feeling of security from those who have authority over you, not wanting to feel protected from the authorities. Have you notice how people love their troops but dont’ give a damn about veterans? Army gives a great feeling, not the homeless war vet. Same with talking to a police officer, I have notice how people bend their backs when talking to officers, its almost like godly veneration to the agents of the system, because it gives them a sense of security to be in the good books with the police. (not saying do the otherwise, but note the system at play). Same thing at play when sucking upto the boss, wanting to feel secure. The janitor is almost a non-existing human, not even worthy to say hi to him as he cannot give me any feeling.
The family of course is another rotten place where survival systems run high. The feeling of power in numbers, social status, having a home, house, extended relatives, the bigger the crowd greater the power. And who is in or who is out is strictly controlled, not anyone can just walk in and be part of the family. Marriage plays big role in that, who you will marry, or who you’re allowed to marry, all that will alter the power status of the family. “Oh my son-in-law is a heart surgeon”, vs “this low cast bastard my daughter shag with is an animal”, and possibly leading to the sudden death of that young man. And if the daughter shags with a westerner, that’s enough reason to kill her and call it ‘honor killing’.
Isn’t that part of the survival system? The mind falls apart, can’t bear to see his daughter with a foreigner, it creates an intense feeling of betrayal, loss, shame, loss of pride, family honor, so much so, it will justify murder of their daughter.
And the type of kids we allow our children to be friends with, this is another big survival thing. The family status of that kid, will they fit in with ours? What kind of jobs that kid’s parents do? doctors or janitors? Are they blacks? refugees? which neighborhood do they live? what religion, nationality, caste, are they? I can vividly recall these things at play. what is the root cause? The survival of our family, the survival system going big here.
Are they civilized or barbarians? that’s another thing survival system use to justify itself, even to declare war. Saddam Hussian was a barbarian, the butcher of Baghdad, let’s go get him. And the normal citizens will approve that war because it gives them a feeling of ‘civilized’, your survival system feels civilized, with that feeling secured, you can obliterate other countries, like Iraq, Libya, and a whole lot more thru the ages, ever since man armed himself.
What’s the solution? Answer is both long and short. The short answer is: don’t trust your feelings, and see everyone as yourself. While taking practical steps yes to survive in this dog eat dog world, i.e have a roof over your head and food on the table. And yes that may include not socializing as equals with ex-convicts or homeless drug addicts. But with the deepest awareness, that I must be a solution to create a world where everyone has an equal chance for a life of dignity and worth, how to do that is the long answer.
But for now, it starts with me, with what I allow and accept within me, that I have been always doing for the survival systems to survive at any cost.
No one will ever have to jump off a bridge because they found the going is tough, and if they did, I would have accepted and allowed that.